We and our Family

In each one of us is a child that was fed, nurtured and pampered by our parent. The 'we' that we are today is the sum up of how we grew up in our families. The values, ideas and principles of our families make us up greatly.

Being a Transgendered child is enormously a difficult thing for the family to accept - born as one gender and identifying and growing up as another. We have gone through it and we know how much difficult it is for our parents and siblings to accept us as we are.

Beyond the facts about gender and age, we are always the child of our mothers. Boy or girl or the middle-sex, none of us want to hurt our families. Particularly in our Indian family system, we are very much attached to our mothers. For Transwomen, to be honest and truthful to our parents and reveal the real 'we' to them is the most difficult thing in the world. We surely know they will be hurt and we fear to tell them the truth.

We know that our families would rarely accept our real identity - our real self. Most of us have been living for our families, not for ourselves. Some of us have sacrificed all our lives for them. Only very few of us are accepted as we are. The very few lucky ones. Many of us have been liiving a second life. The excitement of baring your soul in private or among other Transwomen is a Bliss! We all know it.

Before we ever tell our families about us, it is important that we discover more and more about ourselves. We must fully know who we are, whom we want to be. Never should we jump in hasty conclusions and decisions. Dressing up beautifully, appearing like an angel is not at all being a real woman. Transition is not only about physical transformation and beauty.

It is about your real self, the real you, what and who you are and what and who you want to be in life.

Kalki